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Personal Coaching is more about changes in attitudes, thinking, perceptions, and behavior. There are as many potential changes and goals as there are people who want coaching, but some topics come up repeatedly:
Developing skills in areas like athletics, music, money-management, public speaking, leadership, entrepreneurship, or parenting
Discovering and developing passions
Finding a life purpose
Building a clearer vision for the future
Developing a mission statement
Learning to manage change effectively
Learning to relate to people effectively
Finding and living clear values
Building communication skills
Learning to manage conflict effectively
Appraising performance
Giving and receiving constructive feedback
Getting unstuck, out of ruts, and moving forward
Learning to think and see things differently
Expanding the capacity to take action
Expanding the capacity to think things through
Breaking free of self-sabataging behavior and destructive self-talk
Building better teams
Building self-confidence
Finding meaning in what one is doing
Getting the courage to take risks
Learning to take responsibility
Developing a closer walk with God
Making better decisions
And so on...
Used with permission by Gary Collins, PH.D.
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Are You Living Your Best Life?
Excellence-Based Living©
Not living your best life can have a major impact on the quality of your life. Satisfaction and fulfillment is low and it is difficult to find value in the things matter the most. People who are not living their best life have trouble keeping the main thing, well, the main thing.
People who live their best life easily understand how their life's vision, like tentacles, reaches every aspect of their lives. They engage in meaningful work, have fulfilling relationships, and create reserves that keep them energized for their God-given life purpose.
Excellence-Based Living is a proven coaching method that specializes in getting the results that matters most. I work with successful people who want to work on one or two areas of their personal or professional lives. I build powerful collaborations through life coaching which helps my clients focus on their goals, harness their uniqueness, and attract desirable opportunities.
Ever notice when you engage in personal development, no one is designated to officially help you design your roadmap, help you stay the course, or help you correct your course along the way? That's where I come in! Are you ready for Excellence-Based Living? To get started, connect with me at 513-508-3866 for a no-cost, no-obligation coaching assessment.
With Highest Regards,
L. Danyetta Najoli, M.A., MCBC
Life Coach
This story is often used to explain the difference between Coaching, Consulting, Mentoring, Parenting, and Therapy. Please know that this is a generalization; there are lots of gray areas and this is only meant to be a very simple (and slightly tongue-in-cheek) way to explain the differences. That said, let's take the example of learning to ride a bike....
Consultant: Studies the mechanics of riding the bike. Teaches you the laws of physics, how the bike is propelled what is necessary for balance, and laws of motion/propulsion. A consultant tells you where to sit and where to put your feet and when to pedal. Then he/she leaves.
Therapist: Discusses the basis for your fears about riding and the consequences of falling. Discusses if your parents rode, and why that might be important. Explains why it is important for your self-esteem or psyche for you to learn this and be successful, and helps you unload whatever baggage may be impeding your potential to ride.
Parent: Buys the bike for you. May put on training wheels, and take them off when they think you are ready. Runs by the bike holding on until you have balance to continue, and then cheers you on as you go off riding into the sunset. Occasionally will threaten to take away riding privileges if you don't comply with ground rules. :-)
Mentor: Shares with you their experience/expertise of bike riding. Gives you tips on the most effective way that they've found to ride. Models the way they think you should ride, give you strategies about things like changing tires quickly in a race, how to get the most speed for your effort, what the best bike is to buy in their opinion, and how to negotiate gravel at the bottom of a hill. Teaches you their version of proper maintenance and warns you of dangers of riding in traffic. Sometimes holds an "I know better than you since I've been there before, so you'd better listen to me" hierarchical position.
Coach: Listens to your desire to try riding. Asks you if you need instructions on how to ride and asks where you might get them. Asks if you like the color/kind of bike you're about to ride. May help you pick the bike up and help you get onto it. Runs along side the bike "checking in" to see if you're enjoying the experience and asks what might make it more fun. Will help you discover what you need to take care of yourself when/if you fall. When you're done, the coach might ask about your experience and what was valuable, and whether or not you want to pursue mastery of bike riding. If so, asks you how you might devise a plan to attain that mastery; if not, may help you devise a plan to sell the bike!
How Does Christian Coaching Differ from Other Forms of Life Coaching?
Christian coaches use many of the same techniques that are used by their secular counterparts. But Christian coaching is unique in a number of ways.
First and most important is the biblical worldview that the Christian coach brings to the relationship. Christians believe that humans are created in God's image. Christians live with the awareness that God is sovereign, aware of his people, and willing to guide and empower those who are his children. Like everyone else, we seek to become aware of our passions, life purposes, inner strengths, and visions for the future. But Christians realize that these are God-given and that we find ultimate fulfillment only when we are living in accordance with God's plans. For the Christian coach, God - not human ingenuity - is at the core of their beings, and God is the guide for all coaching work.
Second, Christian coaches seek to approach every aspect of their lives the way Christ would. This means their commitment to Christ impacts virtually every area of their lives including their marriage, parenting, lifestyle, values, spending, vocation and the perspectives they bring to coaching.
Third, the Christian coach knows that none of us can be completely neutral, as some coaching models may purport. One of our goals in coaching is to ask questions that will help others identify and clarify their values. But coaches seek to avoid imposing their own agenda on persons being coached. We rarely advise, and we never tell people what they should do. Instead, we encourage people to set their own goals and directions, crystallize their own visions, and formulate their own mission statements and plans of action. But, we cannot ignore the clear and final directive of Jesus to his followers: make disciples. We genuinely respect the independence and decisions of the people we coach. We still cheer inside when others move in directions that are consistent with biblical teaching and we're disappointed when they move away.
Fourth, in addition to learning and applying the established techniques of coaching, the Christian coach values the act of praying regularly for the persons being coached and is not reluctant to discuss spiritual issues. Christian values are not hooked to coaching like a caboose on a train. Instead, Christian values permeate the life of the Christian coach and flow into coaching. That said, we respect the uniqueness or individualities of persons being coached and fully affirm their right to build lives on values that we might consider not to be Christian.
printed with permission by Gary Collins, Ph.D.
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